Get Over Yourself ... We're Only Disabled! Part 22

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 Get Over Yourself... We're Only Disabled!


Hey my lovely readers, hope you are well.

Chapter 22 

We can go clubbing and partying 


Clubbing and partying is a fun thing to do, even in a wheelchair! 


  I have gone out a lot to several parties, pub trips, etc.  I like having this social time with my friends and we always have a good time.  I love going out with my friends, when I was at college I liked going out with my friends to a pub. Now I prefer a restaurant or a coffee shop as they are more accessible and quieter. 


 I know that people may look at us strangely just because we are having fun and we might be having an alcoholic drink but we are adults, we are allowed to go into pubs and clubs and drink alcohol if we want. 


I can say I haven't always been a fan of clubbing but I like getting together with my friends and having a good time.  I think it is good for people with disabilities to experience clubbing and partying and see what they think of it and be around people their own age, doing what young people like to do. 


Also people can experience partying and clubbing in the way they feel most comfortable.  People can go to the pubs and clubs or have their own type of party in the place they feel that they can be themselves.  I know that I find loud pubs and clubs quite rowdy and hustling but they are good when we want to socialise and have fun.


I feel that this opportunity of going to pubs and clubs is overlooked by carers for disabled people as they may feel that it is unsuitable for the person even before they've tried it.  People should go out socialising as this is one of the ways they will learn about friends and how to have fun with friends.  It's about growing up and seeing life as an adult.


I think clubbing and partying is great when it is pitched at the right level for the person.   Some people may enjoy the loud music and the busy, socialising atmosphere but others may just enjoy seeing a few friends at a smaller and quieter place so they can relax and enjoy time together. Everyone is different and enjoy doing their own thing whether it is a party or a social gathering.


Don’t take opportunities like this away from disabled people because as soon as they are at the consented age of eighteen, they are entitled to go out and enjoy pubs, clubs, bars, have alcohol and have fun with their friends/people of their own age.  At the end of the day, it’s our choice what we want to do in our spare time with our friends and this shouldn't be taken away from us just because we are disabled.


Disabled people can still have fun even if they are in a wheelchair or look different from other people.  As I have written many times in this book, the fun can be adapted to suit the needs of the person.  People shouldn't assume that because someone is in a wheelchair, they can't go out and have fun like other people who are the same age as them.  Just because people are disabled, this doesn't mean they aren't allowed to have fun.  Pitching the fun at the right level will allow the individual to have fun in their own unique way. 


People need to grow and experience things that might be out of their comfort zones.  This might be daunting at first but when they are comfortable to try new things, this can help them develop more confidence.  I know that I am not fully confident when it comes to going out and trying new opportunities but when I have done it, I feel that I have achieved something great and that I will be able to carry it with me for the rest of my life.


Going clubbing and partying might be a daunting thing to do for some people, especially if they haven't had much experience of it.  Talking to friends and meeting new people may be a struggle to them.  The best way for them to experience this, is to introduce it to them slowly and let the person get used to what they want to be comfortable with.


People should be allowed to enjoy themselves and have fun with their peers.  This is what other young people would be doing, so what is so strange about disabled people having a good time? 



Thank you for reading my blog 


Abbie x

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